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@8-bit buggery: thanks...

You know, you could use your shyness to your advantage. Just brush up your social skills and enter in as much conversations with woman, build up confidence in this and after a while you'll find out that people in general appreciate shyness.

You can 'sell' this, but for this to work you need to be in social situations, and you must have the balls to initiate a conversation. After this : yes, woman will approach you and as for sex, although this might not be stated as blunt as :'hey, wanna fuck?'

Try Bangkok. I hear they do come up to you there, asking to love them long time.(aka have sexy time with them)
But watch out for fraud womens. Some have penises. Now thats what I call a woman who is a fraud *chuckle*

as->ask

IMO it's really hard to find some decent women. BUT they DO exist and will eventually go to a party with you.

But when you hit 60.. oh boy.

They don't do that on you!

That whole Farbrausch thing was created as an elaborate scheme to get me laid, and oh it worked SO well. It's astonishing how many hot chicks decide on their sexual partners purely based on pouet's all time top. Trust me.

oh yeah...and http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml

Sorry, maybe I shouldn't have used the world "asshole", I was misunderstood. I didn't mean that everyone who gets the girl instead of me was an asshole. Most of them are as a I said more confident than me. And yes I agree on the whole shyness thing. If you are a pain in the ass for her to get to know you because you are so shy that you don't respond then yes it makes sense see will find another one who is more confident to respond.

Also, by referring to the article "I don't need a girlfriend" I am not saying this is the truth for everyone. I am not saying nobody should need or want a girlfriend. I am just trying to refer to people who are like me, in my condition, who had a complex for not having a girlfriend and still don't get it. Maybe social pressure works for some but not for me. So it's better to stop having these ideas, at least people who can understand me when I am saying these.

I never wanted to create a stereotype. I am just talking for myself and people who might feel similar.

i never thought of you as a stereotype... read my post once again, and carefully. you'll see that i am in fact trying to take that 'social pressure' off of you, by stating that it might not be like this at all. where does the pressure come from? did your friends/relatives really tell you that in their opinion you should have had one or more girlfriends by now? also, i did say the exact same thing: having a girlfriend is never the only and single most solution nor is it a necessity.

funny how that first statement is my exact point towards the thread-opener :)

About getting into social situations.
What if I am not genuinely interested?

Usually I don't have interesting conversations with girls.
Well, then some people tell me, girls don't want necessarily to talk about geeky stuff, you must have more interests, blah, blah, blah..
Ok, I could do that (even if I lack the motivation because I am not interested) but wouldn't be that like not being yourself?

Another thing. You know, I have this think of talking too much. And many people told me, like it's a thumb of rule, that when you are with a girl you should let her talk more. They don't like you talk more than her. Something like that. I have heard this as a general rule of thumb. Of course it's just a rule, maybe that girl wants you to talk about your lifestory a lot.

Maybe this means that I shouldn't hurry with it. A friend told me this is an excuse. But I think when I deduce the problem I find this thing, that the whole thing, talking to girls, having a relationship doesn't apply to me. I don't even know why I should be together every day with a girl. I don't even know if I want this. As a person I am obsessed with objects, ideas and not humans. I don't even know if I could handle being in an actual relationship and having to give or take something from the other person. So, instead of worrying I should think more clearly of this and maybe one day I will find a person that fits my weird self. Or maybe I am not supposed to be with another person. Why is it the axiom that everyone has to has his other half oneday?

@hcdlt: Sorry for misunderstanding. Ok,. I read one of your post and actually we say the same thing at the end. Having a girlfriend should be a social pressure.

Anyway, I think I could blog about this.

Arrrghhh!!!

"Having a girlfriend should be a social pressure." NOOO
"Having a girlfriend shouldN'T be a social pressure."

Ok,. I just said the opposite :)

Fuck this :)

Fuck everything! Except the girls! Wait.. that's not what I meant!

you could blog about this, but i fail to see how that's supposed to help you. i fear that it just will drag you even deeper inside your dangerous "overthinking bubble".
let me get this straight, because i don't get the impression of you, optimus, understanding me at all:

there are no "rules" by which girls can be dealt with easily. only this single and very important one:
do _not_ ever, ever, ever think of a girl as a different kind of species! they're human and there's a great chance that they think/feel just the same way as you do. so just talk to them like you would to every other person (read: male) and eventually you'll even find one who is also interested in "geeky" stuff and in you generally. exclamation mark.

kb: \o/... when i was younger i tried that. didn't turn out very well. most of "everything" is hard/sharp/edgy/cold and thus not very pleasant to be touched with your dick... seems like god had a plan when making women as soft and warm as they are ;)

you cant change who you are and if you do change yourself just to get a girl, you will regret it. by the time you marry her and have children, you will be exposed for the freak you are. her parents and friends will be telling her what a loser freak you are, she will decide to divorce you and all you will have to show for it is an intensification of suicidal tendencies and offspring who inherited the same screwed-up mental traits as yourself. you will have no relationship with your children because you're an anti-social freak who has no idea how to relate on a personal level - least of all your children.

best to stay away from girls and relive those sexual instincts with Ms Palm and a bottle of Baby-Oil. That's what I do - and I'm quite satisfied.

I am sorry, sometimes I do the overthinking because it's me, because I love doing it so much. While I think that it might also give answers to help me, this is not the number one reason for doing it. Even if all my "problems" end then I will still be doing it. But don't worry, it's not like the old times when overthinking brought me to dead ends and I was feeling there is no answer. It's different now, I can do it, and then come back to reality, and then go back doing it again and keep some balanced and dream of my rotating zen.

I will keep in mind what you say about girls not being different species in. I would say now I don't generally think like this but maybe you mean that I still live with the preconception of it even if I don't understand it. I may already have conversations with girls sometimes, usual boring stuff, it doesn't matter.

What I wanted to say is that somehow talking to people just for talking and not because of wanting to discuss special interests (it doesn't have to be just computers) doesn't seem to interest me. Also most things people do while being in relationships don't attract me. I observe people that are in relationships, it's small-talk, love-me/love-you stuff. I don't know if I will be able to do this or even interested. I can't be related, I don't know why or how they do it, if they have the interest or are pretending stuff, when I try to put myself into their position I don't think I could do even this. Being in a relationship and acting like being in a relationship.

Of course there are not rules about how to act when being in a relationship. I also don't say anything of these are wrong. I see that I feel incompatible with the whole concept. But maybe oneday I'll just meet one girl that makes the relationship concept possible. Or maybe just a fuck-buddy. Why not?

But then I say, and so what? Why should I be compatible? Maybe I will die and never have a girlfriend and you know what? I will not be ashamed. I will consider this as just being me. It's no big deal. It's not a taboo. I can be content to live by myself.

Sorry for again writting too much..

Citation needed.

In other news...

Rich people are a fraud, because I've never been one.
Space travel is a fraud, because I've never done it.
Evolution is a fraud, because I've never seen it.
And saying my farts smell horrible is a fraud, because they smell okay to me.

I met my boyfriend at Breakpoint 2010.

Yes, I'm a fraud I guess.